Impossible choices

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am not satisfied with my sex life. Let me clarify. The sex we have is always, without fail, awesome. I can count on one hand the number of times we have had substandard sex in the 9 years we have been together. I'd say thats a pretty good track record. My issue is the frequency. When we first got together, we had sex multiple times a day, despite his 16 hour rotating shiftwork schedule. As time went on, and we married, it slowed down to a normal pace. Several times per week. Nothing to complain about, right?

2 years ago, his desire stopped. I can now count on one hand the number of times we have had sex this year. I feel (do not read "he makes me feel" because I do not believe in that) ashamed of my sexual desires. I believe he truly has no desire. I know he is not cheating on me (he has no time, trust me).

So, what is my impossible choice? I have discovered the cause. He drinks. A lot. 200-400ml of whiskey per night. Thats 7-14 shots per night. Thats ridiculous. I did not see this as a problem because he doesnt drink until the children are in bed. He still gets up and goes to work and makes a living. He is good at his job, regularly getting internal "rewards" from his company for his attention to detail and efficiency. He is a great father, balancing firm discipline (which i lack) and loving fun with them. My mother even said she was wrong about him being too hard on the children the last time she visited. But his one escape, his one happy place that is truly his own, is causing me constant stress and unhappiness.

He doesnt treat me poorly when he drinks. I actually see very little difference in his behavior between sober and drinking (he says he doesnt get drunk...). But I havent had sex in almost 2 months. It is driving me crazy. He says thats I obsess about it, that I should be happy with all the other wonderful things in my life (and I am! I know my life is one to envy...at least i envy it sometimes hehe) But I am a woman....at the beginning of my sexual "peak"....and i can do nothing. (And trust me people, doing it yourself doesnt cut it after a while...)

So what do I choose? Try to take away his happiness? Or live the rest of my days unwillingly chaste?